This is 45.

I have learned a lot in my lifespan. Here are the 45 lessons I have come up with.

• Love your body. Be ok with stretch marks, your extra 5 pounds.

• Be ok with the fact that some people don’t like you or your personality, You are not for everyone.

• Learn to forgive and move on. Grudges just take too much of your energy.

• Learn to laugh at yourself, don’t take yourself to seriously.

• When having a bad day, dance it out.

• Life isn’t always fair but it is good.

• See the good in people, don’t judge situations, you don’t know what is going on behind closed doors.

• You don’t have to agree with everyone, but you should agree to disagree.

• It’s ok for your children to see you cry.

• Take vacations! Even day-cations and stay-cations!

• Eat the fries. Just do it in moderation.

• Have more lunch dates and dinner dates with your friends.

• Never stop dating your spouse.

• Life is too short for a long pity-party. So make it short and get back to living.

• You can get through anything, if you stay focused and present in today.

• Everyday is a special occasion, you are alive. Eat the dessert first, use the special dishes…stop saving those things, today is special.

• Be organized.

• Over-prepare, then you are ready for anything.

• You are in charge of your own happiness.

• Be Bold. Be different.

• Be a little crazy, love your Boy Band with no apologies. NKOTB forever

• Time heals almost anything, just give it time.

• Hold your kids. Enjoy every mistake and every accomplishment, these are memories.

• Failure is optional, learn from it or don’t. Either way it will determine your outcome.

• Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

• Embrace getting older….enjoy every piece of the journey.

• Breathe in fresh air every single day.

• When you look at the world in general, all your little problems don’t seem so bad.

• Love everyone, you don’t have to like everyone but you should love everyone.

• Don’t be jealous, celebrate others accomplishments.

• Stay in touch with friends and family.

• Believe in something.

• Give back often.

• Sing in the car, loudly.

• Take long showers and reflect on your day.

• Journal.

• No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

• Believe in yourself.

• Breathe. Just breathe.

• If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

• It’s your life, don’t let others tell you how to live it.

• Mourn your losses, then figure out how you can turn it into something that will help someone else to get through the same challenge.

• Always be there when someone needs to talk, give them your time.

• Always say I love you, genuinely. 

• There are always going to be more lessons to learn. Keep Going.

This is 45.