On Growing Old Gracefully by Cindy Vanhoff

I guess I always thought I would be young! And feel young. Oh, the naivety of the young.

I am approaching my 60th birthday. I can’t even believe I just typed that number! I see all my classmates birthdays come up on Facebook, and they are turning 60 too. How the hell did that happen?

I wanted to grow old gracefully.

Just last April, that meant

Jet skiing

Summers in and on the water


Climbing Mayan Ruins

Lifting Weights and Working out


Doing the heavy lifting and moving with my organizing clients

Being independent and relying on myself

Just last April, I found that I needed to change my definition of “growing old gracefully”. You see, April 2018 I fell 40’ off of a Mayan Ruin. I survived to tell the tale. And, perhaps to learn some things.

I still want to grow old gracefully.

That now means

Giving myself grace for my limitations

Giving others grace, period

Being thankful each day that I live and breathe and walk here on this earth

Being joyful about the things I can do

Knowing it’s ok to miss the things I used to be able to do

Having a positive outlook that things will get better and I will do those things again

Being ok if they don’t and I can’t

To do my best with where I am and who I am today

Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength.

Betty Friedan
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